Hey guys, have you ever met someone who likes to blame other people for bad things? For example, if they don’t get good grades on an exam, they may think the question is too difficult or that the material was not covered in class. Sometimes we can also blame our mistakes like this incident.
In psychology, this behavior is called selfish bias. This cognitive bias is common to everyone, everywhere. Why should people do that? So what’s the impact on people who do this a lot?
My name is Fifi, part-time blog writer at One Percent. This time I’m going to tell you about selfish bias. So, read to the end, ok?
What is Self-Serving Bias?
Selfish bias is a person’s tendency to perceive failure as caused by external factors. New success, on the other hand, is the result of internal factors. This happens as a defense mechanism to maintain self-esteem. Bad results can indirectly reduce self-confidence. In this way, they prefer to blame external factors to feel a little relieved.
The Negative Effects of Self-Serving Bias
To a certain extent, self-service can make us more confident and survivable in difficult situations. But of course, this is only temporary because it is not aimed at solving problems at all. This cognitive bias has more negative than positive aspects.
Make yourself undeveloped
If we focus too much on evaluating external factors, we cannot improve. Mistakes that occur don’t even let us learn. As a result, we may experience something similar or even worse in the future.
Feeling yourself is the best
Being stuck assuming we are the best can make us complacent. As a result, we feel like we can master many things even when there are others far more competent than us. Since we do not evaluate the results thoroughly, we cannot learn from our mistakes. In the future, we will be surprised to find a similar incident.
People who are often self-serving and biased also tend to come off as arrogant. Of course, people also feel uncomfortable around arrogant people. In addition, they are too often blamed for their failures. Too often throwing mistakes make us want to blame others. This can weaken our relationship with other people due to disagreements.
While this self-serving bias is sometimes “human,” it’s also important to recognize that there are more negative implications. So we must learn to regulate our way of thinking and admit that it is normal to make mistakes.
How to reduce the habit of selfish bias
Because this selfish bias is sometimes unconscious and spontaneous, we need awareness to change it. To learn to change this habit, we can learn to evaluate ourselves first before looking for external flaws.
Accepting the mistakes we make ourselves will help us to improve in the future. Every time you find a mistake, try to challenge yourself to be able to change.
Learning to use self-compassion can help overcome self-serving prejudices. Self-compassion is self-acceptance. Learning to accept ourselves means that we accept all aspects of our shortcomings that we don’t like.
Mindfulness is the ability to recognize that we have a problem. This allows us to accept and tackle problems more objectively.
Have positive self-talk
Try to say positive things when you face failures. Don’t be too hard on yourself. By saying positive words, we can feel more relaxed and reduce the negative emotions we just experienced.
Take care of yourself
The final way to reduce selfish bias is to pay more attention to yourself. Don’t overestimate your weaknesses. The slightest change or effort to get better also needs to be rewarded so we can be more enthusiastic and reduce stress from the process we are going through.
Here’s how to reduce the habit of selfish bias
To minimize selfish bias, Balamuda should evaluate himself more often before looking for other external causes. If it turns out that you made a mistake yourself, Balamuda must patiently try to correct it.
Application of self-compassion
The second is self-compassion, Balamuda needs to accept his shortcomings more, especially when he fails. It’s natural, you know, if someone makes a mistake, Balamuda really can’t blame himself too much from now on.
Mindfulness is a concept that helps Balamuda better control his self-esteem, allowing Balamuda to calmly deal with a problem without blaming others.
Do positive self
A positive self is a habit of giving yourself positive words when you make a mistake. This habit is considered very effective in minimizing selfish bias.
The last one, Balamuda, often has to give credit to Balamuda himself when he’s done with something. There is no need to give appreciation for great things, just appreciation is enough.